A friend of mine requested a topic on my blog about.. ehh.. guys. Difficult topic.. What comes to my mind right now are e songs God is a girl by Groove coverage, & Independent women by Destiny’s child. Haha. Well.. I have several gal pals who would like to live out a fairytale style of romance like cinderella, snow white, etc, minus e half front of e story -_- Hmm.. Snow white.. u can’t even get a skin like that now even if u had lived in an igloo at e north pole for all your life. So in modern times, it should be renamed as zombie, & e 7 dwarfs soft toys. Ok, enough of jesting our favourite fairytales.
Well, for me, I am currently enjoying my freedom, treasuring my family & friends, spending quality time, enjoy e company & talking awesome crap. Go wherever I want, enjoying, relaxing, chill.. & e best thing, do not have to report to bf everyday.. life is shiok. Lol.
Hmm.. to me, a bf can be troublesome, irritating, annoying, pesky; some are even not responsible nor independent. Ok, I won’t be biased, I will say e gd side of a bf too. Ehh.. he can accompany u when your lonely, makan together, I can’t think of much now, so I will put etc. :-D Actually, if you are in love, even if e place is damn boring, surrounded with insects or mosquitoes, you will still feel that it’s a wonderful place, as long as you are with him.
I think that 2 of e most important things in a relationship are communication & chemistry. So its best to find someone whom u can communicate well with, one who won’t bore u with their conversations, & whom u enjoyed talking with, looking forward to e next conversation or meeting eagerly. If there is no chemistry but have gd communication, might not work out that well, as the there is no click in e relationship, its just like buddy type.
A friend told me before that e 1st 3 mths in a relationship is a trial session. Lol. I think its mostly true. To see whether both are compatible prima facie (on e surface), or not. I guess e rest of e yr is threading into deeper waters like getting to know e person, & understanding each other better, such as favourite foods, preferences, habits, interests, dislikes, etc. e 2nd yr.. hmm.. maybe finding out bit by bit e person’s true colours. Can u actually stand e person after knowing his/her true colours? Or can u be gracious enough to accept it?
Initiative, consideration, trust, understanding, honesty, & keeping promises are some of e essential ingredients. Keeping in touch daily, but not too much, otherwise might thread into e other’s personal space & privacy. To me, that means danger/ pissed off zone. Lol. Because that is too sticky, like a child.. or too possessive :-P
Personally speaking, sometimes, being together with your partner for several yrs might not mean a confirmed future marriage. It might possibly end up in a marriage, or might unfortunately be a separation. Some might feel that “since I am with him/her for so many yrs, might as well I stick with him even though I can’t really stand him. & time is wasted again if having to find a new partner & start anew from square one. & I am not getting any younger.”Therefore, I conclude that in a relationship, it is a gamble for both sexes. It involves both parties in an informal mutual agreement. A note to my future husband who has yet to appear: “Can u show up soon? Why do u take so long?! Better show up before I reach 40, or I will whack u when I see u.” :-D
